Leaning into the Discomfort and Difficulty of Recovery

Recovery isn’t easy. It’s difficult.

Recovery isn’t comfortable. It hurts.

Recovery isn’t fun. It’s demanding, sometimes with no reward at the end of the day.

But let me ask you something. Which kind of difficulty would you rather sit through? The difficulty of abusing, or the difficulty of working toward a healthier, more meaningful life? Which kind of discomfort would you rather tolerate? The discomfort of your addiction, or the discomfort of trying to recover? Which kind of reward do you want? The reward that pushes you closer to the edge, or the kind that gives you a stronger chance at a longer, happier existence? 

The struggles of addiction don’t go away when you decide to recover. It’s not like a magic switch that you can just flip on and off. You are going to experience the same pain and the same struggles as before. The trick is learning how to deal with them in a new, healthier way.

I once learned something really helpful: in recovery, a decision that leads to short term pleasure will probably lead to long term suffering, and a decision that leads to short term suffering will probably lead to long term happiness. Let me explain.

A woman has been sober for 2 years and learns some disappointing news. She feels a strong desire to pick up a bottle of alcohol and drink the whole thing. This would lead to short term pleasure but, in the long term, will just send her spiraling down a dark hole of relapse and reinforce substance use to cope with negative emotions.

Now, say she decides to resist her urges. It’s uncomfortable. It’s painful. It’s HARD. In the short term, she suffers. But, in the long term, she sustains her recovery and proves to herself that she has what it takes to live a healthier lifestyle. 

Both options involve some sort of discomfort. Some sort of pain. Some sort of difficulty. The question becomes, which one are you going to put yourself through?

It might seem tempting to just stay in the discomfort of your addiction. After all, you’re used to it. You know how to manage it. But is it worth it?

Don’t let the fear of difficulty and discomfort hold you back from pursuing recovery. Lean into it. Embrace it. Know that it is inevitable, but totally worth it. Unlike the difficulty and discomfort of your addiction, the difficulty and discomfort of recovery will create a stronger and braver you.

Happy National Recovery Month!

- Sarah Vidal, MSW Intern at THE PILLARS

Serenade to Sobriety

Grammy nominated, multi-platinum jazz saxophonist, Najee performs at his ONLY concert in NYC in 2019. Join us for a "Serenade to Sobriety (STS)", a fundraiser supporting people in recovery and those loving someone in active addiction. Najee is joined by comedian Michael Colyar, singer/songwriters Sherrod Barnes and Peter Collins. "STS" will pay tribute to advocacy groups, healthcare providers, administrators, and parents who have been instrumental in the fight against the opioid epidemic and substance use disorder.

All proceeds will benefit The PILLARS, a not-for-profit that provides free holistic recovery supports to all who enter their doors. to co-host the event.

The event will be held on September 21st at Symphony Space, NY. This year's honorees will include:

  • Commissioner Arlene Gonzalez-Sanchez, OASAS

  • Steve and Susan Salamone, founders of "Drug Crisis in Your Backyard" (son, Justin, died of an overdose)

  • Dr Mary Marron Corwin, Chief of Pediatrics and Neonatalogy, Harlem Hospital

  • Athena Moore, Director of the Manhattan Borough President's Uptown Office

  • Dr Carrie Wilkens, Co-Founder Center for Motivation and Change

I hope we can count on seeing you at The Symphony Space Theater on September 21, 2019 for this exciting, fun and very important fundraiser.

Beautiful Things Take Time

The setbacks do not define you. The heartbreak doesn’t define you. The steps backward do not define you. All of these are a part of your journey and you will continue to grow through them. Soon you will look back on these times, whether good or bad and see that you were blooming all along. In the midst of waiting for things to change you grew stronger. It is difficult not to compare our own growth to others; however, your strides are just as important and grand! Trust that you are exactly where you need to be and right on time.

During times of unknown and transition, it can be difficult to feel comfort and peace. It is terrifying not knowing when the light will shine through again or when beautiful things will come your way. Remembering that you are resilient and reflecting on how far you’ve come and your triumphs can help to ease this discomfort. Also, just because we can’t see the growth in ourselves or the positive changes happening doesn’t mean that they aren’t there. We can believe and find comfort without seeing these things.

Finding comfort in difficult times and in growing is much easier said than done. Here are a few suggestions of ways to breathe during these changes and to feel rejuvenated.

v  Try meditation or prayer. These practices can help release some anxieties and fears around what you are going through

v  Call and speak with a friend. Asking for help is just as courageous if not more than trying to manage life on your own.     

v  Self-care always! It is not selfish to take time for yourself. Find something that brings you peace and carve out some time in your day for that practice.

Remember that in all seasons of life you are blooming and being led exactly where you are meant to be. Keep trusting and believing even when you cannot see, because our present realities will not last forever. 

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Authenticity

What does it mean to be authentic? It means being genuine and real despite who you are around. I think Brené Brown explains the difficulty of being authentic spectacularly. “To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect-and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are. I’ve learned that there is no better way to invite more grace, gratitude and joy into our lives than by mindfully practicing authenticity.”

Being your authentic self seems very daunting and difficult; however, one step at a time it is possible. During this journey of being true to myself, I have delved into the fears that prevented me from being authentic all along. These are some of the fears I observed and how I have reframed them:

  • Being vulnerable is scary and too much! Instead: Start by being vulnerable around people I care about and that I feel safe around. Baby Steps child. 

  • What if they don’t like me? Instead: Believe that my worth is not determined by how others see me but rather determined by me

  • I’ve been this way for so long, I don’t know how to change. Instead: Dedicate time to explore what I like, what my dreams are, etc. Believe that I am capable of growth and have people around me to support me on this journey

I encourage you to sit for a few minutes so that you can discover what fears are holding you back and then reframe them. After reframing my fears, I then realized that in order to be my authentic self, I have to first step back and explore who I am. I started to discover who I am as an individual by trying new things and being spontaneous. This was scary because I was having all new experiences and outside my comfort zone. In pushing myself I discovered things I don’t like, things I do and things I want to try!

In beginning this journey, I have felt immense freedom and joy. I have made new friends and deepened my friendships by breaking down those barriers and being vulnerable. I am more present and mindful during the day because I am no longer worried about people pleasing. Delving into my fears and taking time to rediscover who I am has filled me with an internal sense of power, courage, and self-worth that I have never felt before. You don’t have to wait to begin to be your authentic self you can start now! If you need some encouragement or guidance grab a friend and start together!

-Shannon, BSW Intern at The PILLARS

The Importance of Self-Love

We spend our lives pouring out love onto others in our lives through words, actions, gifts, and our time. But I wonder if we express that same outpouring of love to ourselves? I know we’ve all heard it before but it’s impossible to give what we do not have ourselves. And so, we need to get good at loving on ourselves. Not just to have the capacity to give to others, but because we are inherently worthy. Friend, you are worthy of love.

We reflected on this statement recently during a parenting skills class at The PILLARS: When we are unhappy it usually doesn’t help very much to have others contradict us with a compliment. Wow. Let that sink in. I began to think of all the times I had deflected compliments (even though they were true) because I was unhappy in my own body, skin, ability, etc. The truth is, we all have shortcomings. But the bigger truth is, we all have gifts and talents and callings that are completely unique to us and that the world needs us to step into and embody fully. No one else can do what you can do. No one else can be what you are called to be. And so you might ask yourself if you are stopping yourself from receiving the truth of who you are because you are unhappy?

I think it is important to have a good and complete sense of self. Of course, I’m all about growing and become a better and more healthy version of ourselves. But unless we approach these things with the perspective that we are good and whole, it’s likely that we won’t make these improvements.

I invite you to jump into this journey of self-love. My challenge to you is this: choose one of the prompts below and reflect on how it has helped you love yourself this week.

  • Do two things to take care of yourself this week without using compulsive behaviors or patterns

  • Reflect on one positive interaction where you trusted yourself or someone else this week

  • Reflect on one situation you handled well and are proud of or a situation you are grateful for

If this is something you would like to discuss more in depth or if you need a community of people to support you, come by The PILLARS today, we would love to meet you and walk alongside you.

-Miranda, BSW Intern at The PILLARS

Go Where The Grace Is

Have you ever found yourself in a place of continually striving to make something happen, just to feel completely drained and overwhelmed with no end in sight? Of course, there are times where we must do things that aren’t easy. We push forward. We call on those closest to us for support. But, I wonder if some of the things we are constantly feeling the weight of are actually things we need to let go of.

I have a habit of believing the things I sign up for or feel called to in a season of life means that I am to it FOR LIFE. With no termination date, I continually strive to make myself fit in roles that frankly I do not fit in anymore. As people, we are always growing and learning, and hopefully becoming more aware of our true selves as time goes on. Therefore, it shouldn’t come as a surprise when we no longer feel the same attachment or attitude towards things in our lives that we did at one point. And hey……that’s okay!!

My encouragement to you as we head further into 2019 is to go where the grace is. What is calling out to you right now that gets you excited and challenges you? What will help you take the next step in your journey in faith or recovery? What might scare you a little bit, but yet you still feel protected and taken care of if you were to say yes? Is there something you need to let go of to make room for your answers?

I hope your answers to those questions fill you with hope for what’s to come. Moving into a new role, position, home, or piece of your identity does not diminish or take away from what you’ve accomplished in those roles you’re stepping away from. In fact, it seals the work you’ve done and makes room for the next person to step in. Thank goodness for the people who have gone before us! It’s humbling to remember that we also go before others, paving the way for them to step into something. So get excited for what you will do with what’s in your hand now! Let go of anxiety and strife, and step into the adventure that’s covered in grace.

-Miranda, BSW Intern at The PILLARS

One Year Celebration

On November 28th we celebrated ONE YEAR of providing services to our community. It has been such an honor to be Manhattan’s recovery and outreach center. We are blessed by each of our partners, volunteers, and of course our members. Thank you to everyone who joined us as we celebrated all that has taken place in the last year, and took the time to hear where we are going in 2019! We look forward to increasing peer recovery support, by launching SMART Meetings, Sober Parenting Journey, and support for those who have experienced domestic violence. We are also launching a free clinic in partnership with NYIT’s College of Osteopathic Medicine, where we will be able to provide FREE health screenings to anyone who walks through our doors. And in our newest endeavor, we are launching The SAFETY Net, a teen-led clubhouse focused on encouraging youth to be their authentic self through education support, health & wellness initiatives, prevention & recovery services, and social activities!

Take a look at this video as we reflect upon the past year!

-Miranda, BSW Intern at The PILLARS

Self-Care isn't Selfish

As I began my journey of self-discovery I dove in to self-care. I have learned over the years that self-care doesn’t have to be spa days, bath bombs and face masks. It can be so many different things! Self-care is a long-term commitment and it allows one to grow, heal and gain inner freedom. I have a daily practice that leaves me re-energized and feeling whole. Self-care is individualized and the best way to find what works for you is to try out multiple practices! Personally, I enjoy writing a gratitude list, praying, practicing yoga, eating healthy, and using crystals. I have found that self-care is most beneficial when I carve out time in my schedule and keep it consistent. Daily practices are only a small part of my journey, I also approach my life with new values and intentions.

Self-care doesn’t have to be once a day it can be the way you show up in life and treat yourself/others. Here are four practices to begin or add to your self-discovery journey.

  1. Hold space for silence: Practice mindfulness activities and unplug from external stimuluses. Simply sit with yourself and your thoughts. Allow yourself to pause and reflect.

  2. Invest in true and honest friendships: Examine relationships and friendships to see if they are healthy and helping you grow. Surround yourself with people who lift you up.

  3. Speak your truth: Reach out for support when you need it and be honest with those around you. We are not on this journey alone.

  4. Prioritize yourself: Make time for your health (i.e. mental, physical, and emotional) and don’t feel guilty for it. You are important and need to take care of yourself so that you can show up in life.

Through my journey of self-discovery, I have started to implement these practices in my life and I have also found a daily routine that works for me. I encourage you to come to The PILLARS and try our holistic classes. They can become part of your self-care routine. Infuse your life with more joy, gratitude and a deeper connection to yourself—you can do this by investing time in yourself. Start by stopping by The PILLARS.

Shannon, BSW Intern at The PILLARS

Coping with Everyday Stress

We’ve all been there: the dishes are piling up; our deadlines are due yesterday; the kids are yelling; the bills are overdue; there’s no time to get anything done and we’re feeling burnt out and unhappy.

The stresses of our everyday lives have a habit of building up until they seem unmanageable and too overwhelming to tackle. Stress and recovery do not go together as stress activates your fight-or-flight mode and it’s hard to remember how to cope with such stressors other than give up and indulge yourself. Of course the best thing to do on a daily basis is to eat healthy, sleep enough (about 7-9 hours a night for adults), and come to The PILLARS for one of our many stress relieving and energizing classes such as reiki, meditation, yoga, afro-fusion dance, acupressure, and tai chi.

But what if you’re not able sneak away to one of our amazing classes and you still need to de-stress? Below we’ve compiled a list of some alternative suggestions for bringing that heart rate down and relieving the anxiety so you can be the best you.

  1. Learn to keep it simple- focusing on one task at a time will significantly reduce your paralyzing feelings and allow you to be more productive.

  2. Make a priority list with time limits for each task and stick to it - this helps you get your mind organized and shows what needs to be dealt with first in what time frame; all that’s left to do is to perform those tasks and continue living your best life.

  3. Partake in a favorite hobby- removing yourself from the situation causing you stress and indulging yourself in your favorite hobby has been proven to work wonders. It can be anything from reading, writing, gardening, painting or drawing.

  4. Take a break from the device - sometimes the issue is that there is too much input from our outside environment, not allowing us to focus on our inner voice to self soothe. Turning off your devices and taking a break from social media will allow you to open that line back up and figure out what your next step should be.

  5. Watch a playlist of “oddly satisfying” videos- this idea was developed from the mood management theory which states that certain videos can help regulate emotions better than others. Such options would be videos of people playing with slime, ASMR, or a someone playing with kinetic sand repetitively.

  6. Learn how to self-massage - on a budget? Partner not around? No worries! Self-massaging has proven to be helpful and deliciously relaxing.

  7. Put on headphones and listen to nature sounds or white noise.

  8. Positive self-talk has been proven to lower cortisol levels and help build confidence levels. Write them down and stick them on your fridge or tell them to yourself in the mirror, whatever works best for you. Examples of positive self-talk include:

    "This feeling will pass."

    "I will get through this."

    "I am safe right now."

    "I am feeling anxious now, but I have the power make myself calm."

    "I can feel my heart rate slowing down."

  9. Wash your dishes the old-fashioned way - washing dishes by hand has been proven to decrease anxiety and increase positive mental stimulation, not to mention that your kitchen will be clean when you’re done!

  10. Learn how to self-soothe - try out various methods of self-soothing to decrease stress so the next time stress rears its ugly head you will have the tools to help yourself at the ready.

And always remember, The PILLARS is here to help you through your journey of recovery in terms of stress management through healthy practices and exercise, community support, NA/AA meetings and much much more. All you have to do is show up and take advantage of our weekly classes!

-Goldie, BSW Intern at The PILLARS


Be The Best You

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The PILLARS holistic services offer healthy alternatives to manage stress, emotions, and environments. We believe that it is only through self-care that we can learn to care for others. Our Health & Wellness programs include: yoga, reiki, acupuncture, meditation, peer support groups, etc. So, come by and take a FREE class. Take care of you today!

Stress can affect health (one’s physical, mental, and social well-being). Stress can affect wellness but only to a point, in that it can affect one’s perspective or reduce one’s energy/commitment to self-care. The end goal with The PILLARS Health &Wellness programs is to support everyone to achieve one’s fullest potential. We can’t always choose the state of our health; however, wellness is a choice. We can choose to manage our health conditions and actively work towards better physical, emotional, mental states. Do not fear- you are not alone in this journey. The PILLARS is here to help you create a plan, encourage you to perservere, and affirm you when you face doubt. Take a leap towards self-care and come by!

Reasons why you should partake in Health & Wellness programs:

  1. Makes you happier. Meditation helps elevate one’s mood and it alters brain activity to enhance the area associated with positive emotional experiences.

  2. Reduces Stress. Meditation helps one stop worrying about the little things and stay in the moment. Yoga also helps provide coping skills.

  3. Improves Focus. Meditation allows one to learn how to naturally redirect thoughts

  4. Improves Sleep. Focusing the mind on mental and physical processes aid in relaxation. Acupuncture also helps treat insomnia.

  5. Relieves Physical Pain. Acupuncture can relax tight and overworked muscles and help reduce pain. Yoga is also helpful because it increases flexibility and body movement.

These are just a few of the reasons why you should try the programs offered here at The PILLARS. Self- care can be free! Give yourself permission to slow down and take some time for yourself. Your presence matters. I’ve realized that you have to be kind to yourself in order to be kind to other people. So, don’t hold back, come by and take a class!

-Shannon, BSW Intern at The PILLARS


The Importance of Family

As human beings we have an innate and primitive need to connect and interact with other people. That need is amplified when it comes to those we consider family. As someone who was for a period of time completely distant and removed from my family circle, I began to yearn for those benefits that we reap from having strong and healthy relationships with loved ones. The support offered by family members is hard to find elsewhere and having someone that loves, encourages and gives you a sense of belonging is invaluable. And, we can’t ignore the satisfying feeling we personally get when we can reciprocate those very same things. Sometimes, especially when we reach a dark place in our lives, we sacrifice our relationships with our family. We may burn those bridges intentionally because we don’t acknowledge our value or think were not worthy of being part of our very own family. Other times, the decision is not ours and people choose to distance themselves from us for their own well-being. Not exclusive to people facing hardships, those who are experiencing success may encounter similar situations as they can take family for granted. Whatever the case is and whichever group you may identify with, we usually find ourselves looking for ways to fill the voids left by the need of family. Some choose drugs, many engage in other compulsive behaviors, and others fill their inner circle with toxic people.

When someone realizes that they feel a need to reintegrate into their family, their first thought may be, like mine was, “where do I start?” The fear that the family will not be welcoming and the expectation that it will be a hard process because of how much time you allowed to pass or because you believe the relationships are irreparable will be there. But, if you let those feelings and thoughts deter you, you will never know what the outcome might be! Determine to start small - pick up the phone and call your loved ones. Make them aware that you once again want to a part of their lives. You may find the feeling is mutual and that they have been waiting for that phone call for a very long time. When I realized that for myself, I made my phone call, and I encourage you to make yours.

Ray, Intern at The PILLARS

The Benefits of Workforce Development

According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics report for August of 2018, there are currently 6.2 million Americans that are unemployed. Now, that’s a big number! One of the reasons for such a high number is that workers don’t have the ever-increasing skill set that businesses are demanding. In our fast-paced world where technology is advancing (almost) faster than the speed of light and new industries are popping up every day, it’s important to keep our workplace skill sets sharp. That’s where workforce development comes in!

“There’s a rapid change in skills needed in the workforce. Having access to affordable training is necessary.”

Maureen Herbert, Director of the Office of Continuing Education & Workforce Development at Vermont Technical College

Workforce development training can benefit everyone in all industries and all types of employment. For folks who only have a high school diploma it can give them the training and license requirements needed in fields that allow them to start work right away, rather than taking the 2-5 years for an associate’s or bachelor’s degree. One example of that is our 30-hour OSHA training class we just held here at The PILLARS in September over the course of just 4 days! We now have 27 more participants who are able to enter into the competitive market of construction and be a viable candidate!

“Most businesses that want to grow want to help employees engage in their jobs at a new level, especially if they have been in the role [for a long time].”

Katherine Morosani, Director of Asheville Center for Professional Studies

 Workforce development can also help already employed workers who want to build on their existing skills in order to advance in their current workplace. Not only that, but they can use available trainings to make them relevant and more valuable in a competitive market. When trying to dip your toes in a new career, the speed and ease of these kinds of workforce trainings are essential to staying on top of your game. Not to mention, that the ability to adapt to new technologies and innovation is an important marketable skill that will give them an edge in their current employment or with their job search.

The fields in which job opportunities has risen the most are healthcare, wholesale trade, transportation, warehousing, and construction; all fields in which a short training course and fulfillment of license requirements are all that is needed in order to join these rapidly growing fields. Please join us at The PILLARS to help us help you be the most successful person you can be!

Goldie,BSW Intern at The PILLARS

Acupressure as a Compliment

It’s an honor to serve our community and to inform PILLARS members of a little known treatment that has proven via testimony to have a positive impact on the lives of folks and their families. Acupressure beads placed on a few points on our ears (auricular) has been helpful in reducing stress, anxiety, cravings, and pain.

Several weeks ago, we received a call with some exciting news from a cancer patient who credits acupuncture/acupressure with significantly easing the many discomforts of having chemo therapy. This particular patient is a retired registered nurse, who when told of the success many have had with acupuncture dismissed the stories for one reason or another. But now, this patient has experienced the benefits for themselves!

Personally, a debt of gratitude is owed to the mentors at the Lincoln Recovery Center in the South Bronx.

George Plaskett, Acupressure at The PILLARS

#BLESSED September is Recovery Month

Congratulations!!! You are exactly where you need to be, and you are right on time.

It is National Recovery Month, which is a time to reflect on your own recovery, acknowledge accomplishments and growth, bask in gratitude, spread the joy to others and to raise awareness about addiction! It is important to recognize others’ accomplishments and also your own! It is not selfish to be proud of yourself for your accomplishments and to want to share the excitement. It is so easy to make high expectations about where you “should be”, but I am here to tell you that it is ok to not meet them.  

“We Seek Progress not Perfection”

Your effort is enough, remember that. This month I am feeling an overwhelming presence of gratitude and serenity; however, it is difficult to not get stuck in the past. I entered recovery because I was desperate and hopeless. My life today is beyond my wildest dreams, yet it is still difficult to not get swept up in reflection. So, if you are reminiscing this month you are not alone. Instead of focusing on who I was before recovery and getting stuck in a negative mindset I am focusing on using those experiences to show others that they are not alone. Everything that we have been through happened for a reason and in my experience, it is often to be useful to another person. 

“Live and Let Live”

This month is also reminding me how lucky I am to be in recovery and that every day is a blessing. That I have been restored. Also, that in order to maintain this feeling of gratitude and serenity I need to continue to let go. Every day I need to let go of my expectations, my fears, and resentments. Recovery is not always magical and fun. It is hard work and daily provisions, yet I can happily say my worst day in recovery is way better than my best day in addiction. It is also important during September to raise awareness and to reach your hand out.

There are numerous events going on in NYC to raise awareness for addictions. Check out https://recoverymonth.gov/events to find events near you! If you are struggling with addiction and thinking about entering recovery/just need to talk, feel free to call The PILLARS. You can also call 1-800-662-HELP which is SAMHAS’s National Helpline and is free, confidential and open 24/7. The PILLARS will be hosting a Recovery Bingo Night on September 28th at 8:00-10:30 in honor of National Recovery month. Please RSVP HERE (https://www.eventbrite.com/e/national-recovery-month-recovery-bingo-tickets-50173937598) for more details and come on by! Come join the fellowship, grab some food, and play some Recovery bingo!

Member of The PILLARS

Drug Abuse and Baby Boomers

Baby Boomers’ and Seniors’ substance abuse more than doubled from 2002 to 2018. Illegal drug use, among the 50 + age group, increased by 63%. In 2003, they accounted for 48% of all drug related deaths. Most were in their mid to late 40’s, who were binging and participating in new risky behaviors.  Another source of abuse is due to the overwhelming amount of prescriptions dispensed. According to one data source, 60% of all senior’s doctors’ visits ends with a prescription. They consume an average of 4.5 medications, and 3.5 over-the-counter drugs per week. This combination of medications accounts for 15% of all hospital visits from adverse drug related events.

Some complexities informing their use are: loneliness, isolation, divorce, lack of purpose, medical and physical concerns, life transitions, depression, pain management, grief & loss, and economic decline. Concerns related to abuse are increased homelessness, increased criminal and high-risk sexual behaviors, food and economic insecurity, organ failure, brain damage, and high rates of family disintegration.  Another thought is that they are the only segment of the population exposed to a “positive” drug culture who were more likely to be anti-establishment, free-thinkers, hippies, or among the social elite.

Stigma & Stereotypes.

Some view addiction as a brain disease, with a primary driver of compulsivity.  It is assumed that once a substance is consumed, it activates the reward pathway and produces a state of euphoria which compels one to continue to use. The disease is thought to be progressive and escalating; therefore, not even the warning of potential death by a doctor, or on a label, will cause one to stop using. More often than not, use becomes abuse, and abuse becomes dependence.

 Seniors are experiencing the same stereotypes and stigma associated with addiction as teens and young adults. Judgement of the senior’s lack of morals, values and will to stop, often increases their social isolation, shame and guilt.  One even stated “I’d rather have heart disease…then you’d understand that I need treatment…not hate.”

Treatment & Recovery

Today, there are more individuals, over 55, in treatment for cocaine and heroin addictions then in the previous 5 years. It is determined that a one-size-fits-all approach is not the best ideology, because older adults tend to enter treatment with more desperation, a deeper spiritual void, and a greater desire for self-actualization than their younger counterparts who may be trying to avoid consequences of justice involvement.  Seniors may have barriers which are unique; therefore, treatment and recovery should be age-specific, and address their values, life-stage and physical abilities. Extended detoxification and medical stabilization should be factored into the medical plan. Slower transitions between levels of care are important. Seniors often have complications due to impaired cognitive functioning, and/or declines in speech and hearing. They are in need of longer rest and relaxation periods; therefore, mixing them with teens and young adults was not an effective approach. And, holistic approaches to psychiatry, spirituality, and physical therapy seem to have the best outcomes.

Policy Development.

The development of policies should be three-fold and include injury prevention, promotion of public information, and a centralized system to track prescriptions. As we know, current policy has been developed to track prescriptions; other developments are still necessary.

Mixing alcohol and prescription drugs increases the risk of personal injuries due to falls; and additional prescribing of medications to manage the pain after the fall continues the vicious cycle of abuse among the 60 + group. Public Awareness campaigns should be focused on protecting our seniors from this avoidable circumstance.

It is commonplace for seniors to be prescribed medications for a multitude of ailments; however, the current prescription medication tracking system is not designed to generate warnings for adverse interactions among medications from multiple providers. This is an area for future development.

-Felecia Pullen, CEO of The PILLARS 

 

Why I go to The PILLARS

A few months ago a friend asked me to come check out where she worked, The Pillars.  Since my first visit, the center has been a weekly staple, and I’m hoping to go even more.  It’s blessed my life and I want it to do the same for as many people as possible. Here are the top three amazing reasons I go to The Pillars:

1.  Felecia Pullen

Felecia is the founder of The Pillars, and I was lucky enough to meet her on my first visit.  Although it was clear she had stacks of paper to get through and important phone calls to make, she warmly invited my friend and me to chat with her in her office.  Felecia is one of those people that really looks at you and listens with her whole heart. She is genuine, kind, and you can tell she’s been through blood sweat and tears to get where she’s at.  Although I am not sure of her personal beliefs, while spending time with this beautiful woman I felt in the presence of God. She’s real and she’s raw and she hustles. I can’t imagine how many lives she has touched and now with the opening of The Pillars how many more will be added to that list.  If there is anything her hand is in, I want to be a part of it. She’s as refreshing as they come so don’t be shy to stop and say hi.

2.  The Space and Energy

When I walk into The Pillars I notice two things right away.  One, the space is incredibly clean and well kept. I’m someone who notices these things and a clean bathroom and floors go a long way.  Second, the energy in the facility is extremely serene, safe, and healing. The Pillars offers a variety of services, all with the goal of helping people to feel better.  You know it’s a good sign when all you have to do is walk into a place and suddenly you can breathe a bit easier. All the various areas from the yoga room to computer workstation are brand new and gorgeous.  If I know I’m going to The Pillars at night, I look forward to it the entire day.

3.  ACOA

The meeting that I have been attending at The Pillars is ACOA, or Adult Children of Alcoholics.  I cannot say enough how much of a blessing this has been for me. Growing up in a household with alcohol and generational dysfunction, I have a lot of healing that needs to be done.  Previously, I had tried Al-anon (a support and discussion group for the relatives of people suffering from alcoholism), and AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) for support of my family trauma. Neither of those meetings really were a great fit for me, and they were scattered all over the city in places that didn’t personally feel safe for me.  My first ACOA meeting at The Pillars brought me to tears. I learned so much about my life and my choices in one hour, I was truly touched. The fellowship was truly special, and I believe that stems from Felecia’s truly incredible place. People walk in and are welcomed with open arms. We can sit in a clean, safe, place and cry if we need to.  This meeting is changing my life one week at a time.

If I had to describe The Pillars with one word it would be “healing.”  The doors are open for you, free of charge, so I encourage you to check it out.  It’s a special place- one that has changed my life and can do the same for you.

-Anonymous, PILLARS Member
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Step 7- Humility

[Humbly asked him to remove our short comings].

The key principle to this step is humility. I have come to understand that as a direct result of my diseased thinking,  I must become humble or face being humiliated. My recovery process has been an up hill journey, yet I have had some pitfalls. My strength truly lies in my recovery and my relationship with myself, higher power and my support network. The choices I make are influenced by consciousness opposed to thoughtlessness and within this, I gain power. In the times when I feel powerless, becoming humble is a force driven by my higher power. I can tell you that sometimes I am amazed at my responses. My outlook on life has surpassed my old belief systems and I look forward to the continued recovery process.

-Christine, PILLARS Member

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Step 6-Change of Heart

Step Six: “Become entirely ready to have God remove all your character weaknesses."

Willingness is the key in this step. I have not had a moment in my life, in which I have asked my higher power to remove all of my defects of character. I clearly understand that without asking for the help and being willing to do the work needed to change, I will not be freed from the bondage that is associated with my defects of character. I also understand that after working on and writing about my sixth step, that I have the rest of my life to increase my willingness. This is not to say that I want to remain stuck, however just to say that freedom is not free.  My defects of character have helped me to navigate through life, at times (I think), that I’m ready to ask for the removal of them all. Then suddenly, I act out on about three of them at once. I may or may not be aware of the behavior instantly, however, I do check in with myself at the end of my day and explore my overall behavior. I want to gain a clearer insight spiritually and see my defects of character flaring up, before I act out on them. The only way that this can happen, is for me to continue my recovery and maintain open mindedness. 

-Christine, PILLARS Member

Step 5- “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."

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When taking the 5th step in recovery, I needed to read it, process it, and then pray on it, to share with another how spiritually ill I was. It helped a great deal to have a recovery coach who I trusted to bare my soul to. From my earliest days, I was sent to a church and they often said “God is going to punish you for this or that”. When I became convinced that God forgives me when I wake up after going to sleep at night, and with every breath I take. It was easier to forgive myself for all the unhealthy things I’ve done to other’s as well as to myself. Our mother was the first person who I found the courage to address, with all the pain I caused her. My first born was next. When she said “I thought you didn’t love me, when you left mom”. I felt so small, that I caused her to feel that way. Her acceptance of my present state in recovery, surely inspires me to continue on this healthier journey. I actually feel very blessed to have been introduce to eastern traditions. These traditions along with training in the NADA 5-point ear therapy treatments, drives an internal engine to find peace in each present moment. I read all the fellowship literature that was suggested (Still do today) and read a book that suggested I say “goodbye to guilt”. Saying goodbye to guilt was huge for self-forgiveness. My high power (the universal god), lives inside. All external things are not as important as they once were. These 12 steps and traditions have,and continues to be a reminder of the deep despair I felt for so many years.

G.P

A New Outlook on Healthy Living

On Saturday April 7th, Sonja Herbert the founder of Black Girl Fit & Well in collaboration with The PILLARS curated an event called The State of The Healthy Black Girl. This event was centered around Black women, health and fitness.  The panel guests were inspiring Black female fitness instructors/trainers in health and wellness. The panelist specialized in Pilates, Personal Training, Swimming, Spinning, Education and Fitness Consulting, and Holistic Nutrition. Every panelist discussed their stories of personal growth through fitness and explained how important fitness is in Black Women’s Culture and Health. The entire panel explained the importance of exercise and healthy eating because these habits can prolong life and allow everyone to live life to the fullest.

One of the panelist, Ms. Myrna Brady, stressed how important it is to wake up in the morning and take a moment for yourself. She explained that many people fail to realize that a healthy life starts with self-care. Furthermore, that it is crucial to learn to love yourself and embrace who you are through the process of self-care, because then you can truly live life to your highest potential. Ms. Myra suggested waking up in the morning and taking five minutes to tune into yourself. Another panelist, Ms. Crystal Williams, spoke about health care for Black Women. Ms. Crystal Williams shared about her battles with her eye-sight at the mere age of 20 and how this forced her to change her diet.

A major point of the discussion among the panelists was exercising in a way that is feasible to you. Some of us cannot afford gym memberships or don’t have the time in our hectic schedules to devote time to the gym. However, we can exercise in our house for a few minutes a day. There are exercise videos on YouTube that cater to individuals that cannot go to the gym and they focus on utilizing the body as a machine. It is important that everyone discover a technique that allows them to take care of themselves and live a healthy-full life.

After an uplifting and educational panel discussion all the women switched into comfortable attire and worked out for 30 -minutes in The PILLARS. This event shared how to live a healthier life, enjoy a workout and the chance to be encouraged by other women.  Don’t worry, if you were unable to join us for this event because Sonja Herbert will be hosting another event within The PILLARS soon!

-Stephanie Camachoo, MSW Intern at The PILLARS
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